“To know nothing is the happiest life”
-Desiderius
Erasmus
The
topic of today’s post is slightly more psychological than philosophical, but
can still be applied to both subjects. It’s
something that’s important to me because I see it all around me, and I see
others perpetuating it. We are annoyed
with and hate the girls that do it, yet we give them no choice. The topic of today’s post? Girls who play dumb.
We’ll
start with this: humans have an intrinsic desire to fit into a group. This is due mainly to evolution—we are pack
animals, so we must remain with a pack in order to survive. But why do many girls feel like stupidity is
the road to acceptance? Why do girls
play dumb? Well, I believe that the
first reason is this:
1. Insecurity
about true extent of intelligence
A
girl who is insecure about her intelligence and genuinely believes that she is
stupid is more likely to play up that aspect of her personality and pretend to
be more stupid than she honestly is. Boiled
down to a couple sentences, her basic thought process is this:
“If I try to be smart, people will
tell me I’m stupid, and therefore I’ll know I am stupid.
If I try to be stupid, people will
tell me I’m stupid, but they just don’t realize that I’m only playing stupid, and therefore I might still be
smart.”
If
a girl feels like she will be shot down either way, then she has absolutely no
incentive to try to be intelligent. She
feels as though her best option is to accept and embrace her stupidity. Because according to society, the only thing more
annoying than a simply stupid person is a stupid person that tries to be smart.
2. Societal
gender roles
Intelligence
is not a traditionally feminine trait. Moreover,
on a mental level, the testosterone in men makes them psychologically more
aggressive, and the estrogen in females makes them psychologically more
submissive.
This
matters because it is usually the less assertive girls who begin to play
dumb. They don’t feel safe asserting
their opinions and ideas, especially if those opinions and ideas oppose those
of others. In addition, girls take many
psychological cues from society and the media telling them that intelligence
and femininity are mutually exclusive, and therefore feel as though they can
make themselves more feminine and more desirable by playing dumb.
3. The Media
When
we watch TV shows and movies or read stories, we are constantly being presented
with the stereotypical motley crew of friends containing every single stereotype
known to man, enjoying their antics and living in happy harmony. There’s the Smart Friend, the Attractive
Friend, the Morally Upright Friend, etc.
And
there is always, always the Stupid
Friend.
The
Stupid Friend is usually a fun, likable character designed for comedic relief. He or she induces a lot of empathy from the
audience, and at the same time makes the audience feel good about the extent of
their own intelligence. The worst part
is that in female characters, the Stupid Friend often doubles as the Attractive
Friend, making the idea of personifying this character all the more appealing.
If
a girl is insecure, she may think to herself,
“I’m definitely not intelligent enough
to be the Smart Friend, and based on my looks alone I’m definitely not pretty
enough to be the Attractive Friend. I’m
not even sure if I’m a good enough of a person to be the Morally Upright
Friend. Therefore. . . I must be the
Stupid Friend, right?
If
a girl feels like she doesn't have a place, the character of the Stupid Friend
is simply the easiest to embody, because what’s easier than being stupid? As we learned from Desiderius Erasmus,
ignorance is the simplest, happiest life. . .
. . .For the most part, at least.